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9 Ways to help stop the whinging

 
Toddlers and preschoolers tend to whinge and whine to get attention and to help them get what they want. They aren’t purposely trying to be irritating, although sometimes it seems that way! Check out these tips to help your child learn a better way to ask for what they want.
If your toddler or pre-schooler tends to whinge and whine, you’re not alone!

Here are 9 tips you can use to help stop their whinging and help them learn a better way to ask for what they want.
 

Why do toddlers & pre-school kids whinge?


Toddlers and preschoolers tend to whinge and whine to get attention and to help them get what they want.

They aren’t purposely trying to be irritating, although sometimes it seems that way!

Whinging begins around age 2 when kids are just learning to talk, but are still used to crying to get their own way.

Whinging also tends to peak in a child's development when they are feeling out of control and overwhelmed. They lack the vocabulary to articulate their frustrations and whinging is their natural default noise.

Kids continue to whinge because their parents respond to it and they know they will get a reaction. So how do we break the habit?

 

9 Ways to help stop kids from whinging


Check out these tips to help your child learn a better way to ask for what they want:
 

1. Have patience


Patience on your part becomes the first rule when confronted with these early bouts of whinging.
 

2. Stay calm


Stay calm and neutral. Your child needs to know that you won’t react to a whingy voice.
 

3. Stop responding


Stop responding to whinging. Make it clear that if they whinge for something, you'll automatically say no. Or pretend you can't hear them if they do.
 

4. Be firm and consistent


Don’t give in. Within a week or so, you’ll likely notice a change in the way your child asks for things and talks to you.

You are teaching them that they have a choice about how they behave.
 

5. Reinforcement


Besides being consistent, look for ways to reinforce the behaviour you do want, like thanking them when they speak in a normal tone.
 

6. Acknowledge your child's need for attention


Toddlers and pre-schoolers sometimes resort to whinging when they're tried and have failed to get their parents' attention.

That's why they’ll often whinge when you're focusing on something else and they need (or think they need) your help with something.
 

7. Work out what triggers their whinging


Certain triggers, such as when they are hungry or tired can also cause toddler tantrums and meltdowns.

So keep that in mind the next time you take your toddler or pre-schooler grocery shopping close to nap time!


8. Introduce some humour


Acknowledge that your child wants something and try using humour to help address the problem.

Something along the lines of, “Ouch, my ears are hurting. I know that you want something, but I can’t understand you when you use that voice. Can you find another way to tell me what you want?”
 

9. Teach your child to ask for things differently


Teach your little one how to ask for things without whinging by modelling how you want them to speak and what you want them to say.

For instance, in an even tone, ask them to repeat a sentence, such as “Mummy, please can I have something to eat.”
 

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